Wednesday, November 25, 2009

dating game.

hey all, amanda here.

[please ignore the hideousness of this photo. i'm working from a library computer, and only have access to twitpic.]

so, my dating life is pretty non-existent, but i can be mostly to blame for this.

you see, i am picky.

not picky as in "you wear ugly shoes, no way will i go out with you" but picky as in "you kind of creep me out because your hair is blue (true story)."

so there is this boy. actually, there are two boys.

with both of them, i think all i would have to do is say the word, and we could start dating.

you may be asking, "what's the problem? go out with one of them already!"

this brings us back to me being picky.

boy number 1:
  • has liked me for a year
  • would date me in a heartbeat
  • is a good friend
  • is leaving in january

problem: i am not attracted to him in any way, shape, form or fashion. i can't help it [i've tried].

conclusion for boy number one: i feel bad. really bad. because i want him to give up on me. i've told him it's not going anywhere. other people we're both friends with have told him it's not going anywhere. and yet...he still carries a torch. awesome. but not. probably i should stop communicating with him completely. but then i would feel bad because that would be rude. and i am not generally a rude person.

boy number 2:

  • moved here for reasons you do not wish to know about
  • occasionally has blue hair
  • has made me want to dive under my library desk on multiple occasions
  • keeps trying to buy me presents [presents freak me out. i feel like i owe you something.]
  • reminds me a whole lot of first boy i dated and we know how that ended [not well]
  • dressed up as a cat for halloween [and apparently decided to act like on as well. fortunately, i only heard about this second-hand]
conclusion: subtle major hinting has not worked. the only reason i accepted the birthday present [the same day he had blue hair] is because he practically threw it across the library desk at me. i really, really wish he would leave me alone. but i can't tell him off, because i am not by nature a rude and hateful person. therefore, i also want this boy to give up on, if only so i don't have to take drastic action. [for the record, he just tried to give me a christmas present. thankfully, i convinced him to not give it to me. bullet dodged.]

so here i am, asking for you help.
what do i do with them?
any and all advice is welcome, since i can solve most everyone's problems but not my own!
p.s.: do you like my nerd glasses? they pretty much make my life.


Sam, The Nanti-SARRMM said...

Have you told them flat up that you're not interested?

amanda leeann said...

boy number 1: yes. boy number 2: i've thrown several strong hints-basically everything short of telling him to leave me the heck alone.

Karina said...

Hmm. You seem to be in a dilemma here. :( I'm sorry. Being between two boys seems hard.

But my opinion is that if you don't like them, you shouldn't date them. You don't seem to like either boy so I guess you don't need to date either. :) Dating somebody without liking them is not a good choice to make.


Meghan O said...

that's tough... I wish I could find just one boy to like me =/

if boy #1 is leaving in january, there isn't much you can do with him. He will be gone for a fair amount of time i assume?

and boy #2, all you can really do is either keep dropping the hints or flat out tell him "listen, i'm really sorry but i honestly have no feelings here. nothing is going to happen." All of this in the nicest way possible

hope that helps =)

GorJess said...

I'm in a similar situation. Except I think i might kinda like one of my boys but i know he's not interested and the other i'm seriously tryna get rid of. so i can't help but i guess this is my "your not completely alone"

And gifts freak me out too, i don't know why they won't listen!